DEMOLAY THOUGHTS TO SHARE
Bro. David C. Goodnow is a Senior DeMolay from Vincennes Chapter,
Vincennes, Indiana and a member of Lessing Lodge #464 of Evansvile, Indiana. He
is also a news anchor for CNN Headline News
In June, 1998 Bro. Goodnow was inducted into the DeMolay Alumni Associ-
ation Hail of Fame. The remarks made by Bro. Goodnow on that occasion are
reprinted in this STB both with his permission and that of DeMolay
International. --Editor
One very simple truth is this: none of us whether DeMolays or not. . . have
any idea how or to what extent our lives; have impacted upon others, others we
don't even know. We never know all of it in this life. Someday we will, but not
now. Young man, if you think who you are and how you conduct yourself aren't
being observed closely by others. think again. Give yourself some credit. You
might be more of a trendsetter than you know. Some people may hold you in high
esteem and you not even know it. They may seek to imitate you in their lives.
You may unconsciously be giving them cues from your actions. Impressionable
young people may seek to emulate you.
It's like the pebble tossed in the pond. The waves it makes may be small hut
they spread out to affect many parts of that pond ... possibly some distance
away. From where we stand on the shore we may not see all the effects of the
waves. But the effects are there. What if you know someone you meet on a certain
day would be strongly influenced by you? How would your day be changed? Would
you have to be "on your guard" to make a difference in that other life?
Young DeMolay, what if you could rewind any day in your life when you were
not on your guard? You could evaluate what you said and did. Now, what if part
of that replay included those who observed you? This was something you didn't
know at the time but now you could see bow they were affected by what they saw
you say and do. It's too bad we don't have that kind of imaginary replay
machine. It would be our personal monitor to show us when we drop the ball.
It is possible, in this day and age, to live an honorable life that spells
achievement of your goals while also paving the way for someone else who may not
have the tools to put it all together. You can do both. You don't have to choose
one or the other. You can help that some one along the way by leadership and
example.
When we became DeMolays we learned about certain rules that we're supposed to
observe to govern our lives. We learned about the paramount nature of reverence,
patriotism, love, courtesy, comradeship, faithfulness and cleanness. If we
really learn to live by these rules we will have made the giant step that
ultimately means achievement.
We DeMolays are not actors who can "put on a face" to set a good example and
then take it off like a mask to relax and put our mental feet up somewhere. If
we operate that way, we will undoubtedly fail someone when they arrive at a
critical point in their life. They may have somehow dropped the ball. They may
desperately need the leadership you can provide at that very moment. You can't
say "I'll get hack to you later." No. Your leadership and example is needed
right then, young man.
Each life has its own certain number of days to be spent. Of course we don't
know how many of these days we have. To waste them is to waste a gift. We
DeMolays could be doing so much to make a positive difference in the lives of
others. Not every day will bring you great success, or even a small victory.
Don't you just love it when some days come along and everything seems to go
wrong "Yes," you say, "It must be true what some people think. Bad things come
In threes ... or maybe fours or even fives." Those are the days when we want
someone to come along and help us. Do you realize everyone has been helped by a
kind person in some way? It may have been a teacher who went the extra mile to
help you days, weeks or even years ago. It may have been someone who helped you
get a job or was there to help you in your new job when you asked for guidance.
Do you have any obligation to repay the kindness that has happened to you'? If
so, what do you think that obligation is? I suggest two things: first, we all
have been helped in some way; and second, we should PASS IT ON! When you have a
chance to help, don't pass it up, PASS IT ON! You undoubtedly thanked the one
who helped you when you asked, but it didn't end there. There is an obligation.
You can carry on with that kindness and it may not even take much time. Passing
it on may become a very agreeable habit. Young DeMolay, the job of living means
many things. One is that we leave footprints. Our words have meaning . . at
school, at home, at work. So has all that we have been, are now and will be as
people. The lives of those who are interested in helping others are part of a
great mosaic. It builds through the generations. We may work at living decent.
helpful and productive lives but we don't live forever. When we pass from this
life to the next, others come along who will take up the baton and run the
relay, doing their pan, leaving their footprints. Each of us is a pan of that
greater picture. That is why the study of history is so important. It is the
record of human failing and achievement. It is there for all to see and know
about. It shows what does and doesn't work in human relationships. It's not
rocket science. It's all right there for us to see and learn from if we want to.
You might also find it interesting to study those footprints.
How would history have been changed if special kindness had been extended by
certain people at certain times? If you do your reading on the subject, you know
there have been many instances where lives could have been changed for the
better by the positive actions of a person or even a group of people.
Let's speculate for a moment on how the lives of some of history's most awful
dictators might have been changed when they were children. Was there an event or
series of things that happened to warp the child that might have been overcome
by the positive actions of another'? Could that positive action have been simply
the upstanding, honest character of another person? How might this have affected
a young Adolph Hitler, Joseph Stalin. Helsinki Too. Poll Pot or Sadden Hussein?
Millions of lives would have been saved if the massacres they caused had not
happened. Take a moment and ponder how things might have been changed years ago
by the actions and upstanding character of a person who could influence a young
mind in a positive way. Is there a young person out there right now who might
become one of the world's next dictators unless some one steps in to lead by
example?
DeMolays can be a force for good in their homes, schools, jobs, communities
and lives. The precepts are not complicated. The rules are simple. Why'? So all
can see, understand and apply them. It doesn't take a PhD to know how to make
your life an example for good. You are already out in front in many ways by your
decision to become a member of the Order of DeMolay.
There are those who don't know what DeMolay stands for. The only thing they
may ever know about DeMolay, and you, is what they see you doing and saying in
your life. Telling people how to live is one thing. Demonstrating it by your
actions is another thing altogether. It is lead ing by unintended example.
DEMOLAY TODAY What is DeMolay? DeMolay is for young men between the ages of
thirteen and twenty one. Founded eighty year's ago in Kansas City, Missouri,
DeMolay has spread to every state in the Union, and several countries, including
Australia, Brazil, Canada, Germany, Japan, Panama and the Philippines. Today
there are over 700 active chapters in the United States, with over one million
alumni. DeMolay International is one of the oldest and largest youth
organizations of young men in the country.
What does DeMolay do'? DeMolay teaches young men to be better persons. Pro
viding a fraternal environment, the young men of DeMolay govern and direct their
own activities, under the "advisorship" of adults. Leadership skills, civic
awareness, responsibility, and character development are learned through a
variety of "real world" applications and activities. Simply put, DeMolay builds
confidence, teaches responsibility, cooperation, community service, and fosters
trust, respect, fellowship, patriotism, reverence, and sharing.
Some activities DeMolay is involved in are, softball, basketball, swimming
parties, dances, ski trips, camping and hiking. Other activities may include
helping clean city parks, collecting food for the needy, raising money for
seriously and/or chronically ill children, helping senior citizens, helping
local charity groups, and a host of other worthwhile projects. Through these
activities, and others too numerous to mention, the young men of DeMolay develop
reverence for one's own beliefs and respect for the beliefs of others, to love
their parents, to be courteous, faithful, and patriotic; all of which prepare
the young men of DeMolay for the future.
DeMolay sponsorship is an opportunity to make a difference. Each DeMolay
Chapter must be sponsored by a recognized group of Freemasons. The group may be
a Blue Lodge, a Scottish Rite or York Rite Body, a Shrine Temple or Club, or
some other group of Masons. Masonic sponsorship enables DeMolay Chapters to have
dependable, dedicated adult volunteer "advisors." The im mediate supervision of
every chapter lies in the hands of an Advisory Council, which acts as an adult
leadership team witch is com posed of qualified, caring adults interested in the
wellbeing of young people. One member of the Advisory Council is designated
"Chapter Advisor" and is the main advisor to the chapter and its members. The
Chapter Advisor instructs and guides the chapter in the development of
leadership skills and serves as a liaison between the adult leadership team and
the Chapter.
As a Mason, you can help in many ways. Offer your time and talents as a
DeMolay Advisor or adult volunteer. Urge your son, nephew, grandson, or other
young man in your neighborhood or from among the families of your friends toward
possible member ship in DeMolay. You can boost and help DeMolay at every
opportunity that presents itself or sponsor a new member into DeMolay. As a
Freemason, you can be invaluable to DeMolay in many ways. See if a Masonic
organization you are a member of wants to sponsor a DeMolay Chapter, or provide
financial support to DeMolay, or the DeMolay Foundation. Both are tax
deductible. If you would like more information or would like to help DeMolay in
any way, please contact DeMolay International, 10200 N. Executive Hills Blvd,
Kansas City, Missouri 64153 (816) 8918333.
Information provided by DeMolay International
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